They didn’t want to reconcile.

I just realized this.  I have said for the past several weeks that they couldn’t bring themselves to apologize – that an apology was just too much for us to ask, so they wouldn’t meet with us.  But that’s not really it.  They couldn’t apologize.  Because we had said that we wanted to also move beyond the apology.  To forgiveness.  And reconciliation.  And, possibly even restoration . . . one day.  On all of our parts.

I thought they said “No” and tossed us aside because they couldn’t admit they had done anything wrong.  But that wasn’t it at all.

They didn’t want to reconcile.

Reconcile means to reestablish a close relationship between; to settle or resolve.

When you reconcile, you open the door to rebuilding trust.

They didn’t want that.

To reconcile, we would have to begin with confession and ask for forgiveness.  On both sides.

They didn’t want that.

If they had wanted that, they would have said, “Yes, let’s meet and talk through all of the hurt – on everyone’s part.  And then, let’s see what we can do to rebuild trust – on all sides – because we believe in, as much as possible, being at peace with you.

They didn’t want that.

Oh, we could have met with someone who wasn’t even involved.  But that’s not Matthew 18.  So, we said, “No, we aren’t going to meet.”  We learned many years ago that if you don’t do this God’s way, there is very little chance that there will be a positive outcome.

They didn’t want that.

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